Coffee Talk Tuesday : Acceptance

Embrace the glorious mess that you are.
— Elizabeth Gilbert

Grab your mugs and your blankets, so we can dive into this coffee talk. I wanna start off by saying where did January and February go? I mean seriously, how is it already March?! Days go by so fast sometimes, and it's crazy how we can get into the routine of just going day by day, hour by hour, not realizing that the month is already gone and then freaking out. I'm pretty guilty of this, some weeks I just show up to work, eat, sleep, shower and repeat. Recently, I have been trying to do more yoga, reading, writing, cooking, etc. I want to make sure I did everything I could have in one day before it's over. Trying to never let the day go by and think "I could have accomplished so much", and get my life together. Accept time.

Change is good, and I'm someone who hates change unless I am the one who changes it. I want to have full control of my life, but unfortunately that is not how things go. Realizing that the reason I get so upset and butt hurt about change is because I try to plan out every second of my life. I'm pretty organized, so when things don't go to plan my brain melts down. I know that life happens, I know that I can't control everything, so I have started to embrace change. I'm learning to go with the flow and appreciate every step in life. If something goes wrong in my plan, maybe it was just supposed to be this way, maybe I was going down the wrong path and had to turn left instead of right, just so I could be on the right way to my goal. Accept change.

You cannot change someone else, and accepting their flaws will make life easier. Let me give an example: say you're on vacation with your boyfriend, and every five seconds he is asking you "This is pretty cool, huh babe?", or "Are you having fun?". Instead of getting annoyed or mad, simply appreciate that fact that he wants to make sure you're enjoying the trip, and having a great time! Nobody is perfect, and you probably won't like everything a person does. Their flaws are what makes that person who they are. Never use their flaws against them, because most of the time it's their personality, and you can't change that. If it bothers you so much, try and talk it out or simply walk away. It is not worth the fighting or negativity over something they can't change. When you find the right partner or group of friends, you will love and accept their flaws, because those flaws make up who they are. Accept flaws.

Last topic, if you know me at all, you know I get super annoyed with children. I understand I'm young and my opinions will change blah, blah, blah, but recently my super amazing friend Ashley slapped me upside the head and gave me a small reality check. I was complaining about this kid who was getting in my way of Whale Watching in San Diego, (yes, I know I sound like a 5 year old), but I was legit upset. Then it lead to me also saying that I just hate how they cry, especially in grocery stores. Ashley said to me "you never know true embarrassment until your toddler is screaming in the store because you said no to the cookie.", and I sat there and realized that I was being such a little cry baby because a mom had to tell her kid "no", and he/she is just letting their emotions out. I still don't know how to handle my emotions at almost nineteen years old, how do we expect a five year old to understand disappointment. Ashley then said, "Next time you see this, go tell that mom she is doing a great job. She has to teach her baby everything in life and sometimes letting the baby have a fit is how they learn. I promise you, she is doing the best she can". That really hit me, and made me realize that Ashley is a Goddess and is so wise. I'm learning to accept the fact that babies, will be babies. They are learning to be a human, and I can't be mad at them for being upset. Accept emotions + babies.

Let me know in the comments if you liked this Coffee Talk, or if you agree with my topics! Happy Tuesday, if you need me I'll be watching Gossip Girl eating Girl Scout Cookies.