Coffee Talk: Confidence

“The hardest step she ever took, was to blindly trust in who she was.”
— Atticus

Grab your warm beverage, get comfy and enjoy the read!

Do you ever just wonder how some people are so confident? How people can just put themselves out there and just accept the judgement from others? Believe me, you’re not alone.  

Confidence is something I have always struggled with. I’ll put on my outfit that took me 30 minutes to decide, and then get to the restaurant and feel the judgment. Now, this could just be me being me and thinking everyone is judging me. I’m constantly having to ask my mom if my outfit looks okay, or if my hair is too much. She will always tell me, “No honey, you look great!”, and for some reason I still barely believe her. Constantly asking my best friend if my Instagram feed is goals, but why? Why do we spend this much energy on our Instagram feeds? I am not judging at all because ladies, I do it too. 

I saw a post the other day of some super cute bloggers getting together and having so much fun! I honestly was just super happy to see others connecting and then I looked at myself, sitting on my couch with my parents watching friends. Hahaha. Yup, I’m living your dream life (; After seeing their posts, I got sad honestly! I started comparing myself to them and feeling like I wasn’t a good enough blogger to have friends. So, I called my fiancé crying, saying to him, “I have no friends”, haha. I know. We can all laugh at me, I’m ready for it.

Not my photo

Not my photo

I just felt so sad! I’m a beginner blogger and honestly just felt like I wasn’t good enough. But let me tell you, after my fiancé told me how great he thinks I am, I went to my mom. She just looked at me and told me to take a minute and think about my blog. Told me to think about who I am truly doing this for and why? I quickly said, “I love blogging and I’m passionate about sharing my fashion and life”. Why are moms so smart?! (Thanks momma Harris love you). It was so easy to remember why I do this, and I needed that reality check! Honestly, I stopped comparing! I am doing this because I love to share my fashion tips, life mistakes, and photography. I stopped comparing myself to other bloggers who have been doing this for years, I stopped comparing myself to someone on the internet. We are all here for one reason, to share our passions. Everything will fall into place when it is meant to be. 

Fast forward a couple weeks and I got this crazy amount of confidence, after focusing on my Instagram and blog and photography, I just felt really good! So, I reached out to a ton of bloggers and just went for it! Introducing myself and connecting with them. I’ll leave their Instagram’s down below! Let me tell you, I was overwhelmed with how sweet all of these ladies were! It was nerve racking and scary, I felt like I was in middle school haha. At the end of the day, I had nothing to be worried about, bloggers wanna be blogger friends. Supporting each other and helping! I am still overwhelmed with how many ladies I connected with and the best part is some of them live in Charleston, (I’m moving to Charleston in 5 months after the wedding) so it’s pretty awesome already having some cute blogger friends in my new state. 

Hannah - @trulyhannahtate

Alexa - @alexapugliese_

Janie - @heart.of.haynie

Bree -

Sorry for the long post today guys! I just really wanted to share my story and tell you that you’re not alone! If you’re feeling down about your business or you’re not reaching the goals you would, that’s okay! Take a breather and ask your self why are you doing this? You can do this  !


- C